How to Have More Confidence in Your 20s

Despite popular opinion, being a 20-something isn’t actually the cakewalk it’s made out to be. Sure, there are perks (few commitments, lightning fast metabolisms, ability to party hard and not feel like *total* crap the next day [sometimes]…). What people aren’t talking about though? How about the stress and anxiety of finding a job (& possibly relocating across the country for said job)…or attempting to date (despite not even having enough time to wash your hair some days)?

Yeah, being 20-something is stressful. We’re told our whole lives that *these are the BEST years of [our] lives*. Maybe it’s just me, but doesn’t that sound like a lot of pressure?

How do we ensure we’re making the most out of these years, while also securing our futures, so that maybe, just maybe, we can prove our obnoxious, pessimistic AF relatives wrong and actually find immense joy beyond the age of 29? 

Many aspects of this mystical 10-year gap in time are beyond me, but I do think I’ve got a good grasp on how to have more confidence in your 20s. And I’d say that the first step to enjoying your 20s and building a life for yourself is getting yo’ self some confidence, right? Because how are you going to nail down that job, make that big move, get the guy (or girl), etc., if you don’t BELIEVE IN YOURSELF and your decisions first? 

Yeah, that’s what I thought. 

Here’s the skinny:

1. Trust Your Gut

If you have a gut feeling about something, it’s probably right. Seriously. New guy acting shady? Not worth your time. Suddenly drawn to a position half way across the country, where you know absolutely NOBODY? Just apply already! What’s meant to be WILL happen, but you need to get out of your own way and trust your own intuition. 

2. Surround Yourself With Like Minds

There’s nothing worse than discussing a exciting new idea with a friend or family member, just to have it shot down immediately. This is why it’s so important throughout your entire life, but especially in your 20s, to surround yourself with like-minded, supportive individuals. Of course a different perspective should always be welcome, and you don’t need people in your life whose sole purpose is to stroke your ego. However, find a crowd who believes in le power of YOU, but will still tell it to ya straight if you’re talking a bit cray. 

3. Figure Out the Next Best Move

I think one of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard for people in their 20s is to stop worrying about the future, f*ck the 5-year plan, and just figure out the next best move. That’ll get you where you need to go. BTW, it was Oprah who said this. I love this advice though, because I think it makes people more comfortable making gut decisions. Instead of worrying about how one choice is going to affect the rest of your life, pondering the endless what-ifs, just figure out that next best move and continue to do that until you get to where you need to go.

4. Be a Loner

One of the things that I’ve found helpful in building my own confidence has been spending more time alone. Whether it’s educating myself by reading different books or working on blog posts, I truly think doing some things on your own helps to make you more comfortable with your individuality.

5. Try New Things

Something that always makes me feel better about getting out of my comfort zone and trying new things. Sure, it’s awkward and uncomfy at first. Maybe you make a total a$$ of yourself at whatever said new thing you’re trying to learn. However, I’ve found that it’s worth it in the end to just give it a shot. New experiences are what help you grow as a person, and personal growth is a huge step in becoming a more self-confident individual, if you ask me 😊

Do you have any self-confidence tips for us 20-somethings? What’s YOUR biggest insecurity right now?

  • Lauren Dumonceau

    After coming out of university, I found it to be quite a competitive environment. Everyone is competing for the best jobs and the pressure is on! I worked at the same company for 6 years now and am 29. The same things that mattered to me in my early twenties, don’t matter to me in my late twenties. I am happy doing what I am doing, I am trying to find my way, and I have worked weekends for 6 years. It is important to follow your heart and not get caught up in what everyone else is doing. Just do you! Great advice girl and all the best! xo

    • I totally agree! It’s so easy to become a follower, but it’s always important to stay true to yourself and your values. Thank you so much for sharing!! xx

  • Yes to all of these points! I love the point about being a loner and I so agree.

  • I LOVE your tips! It’s important to build self esteem!

    Have an awesome day!

    xx Kris

  • Hanna J Smith

    ***ALWAYS CALL YOUR MOM! If you think “maybe I should ask my mom” then DO IT! I got married and had kids in my teens (I’m only 24 currently) but being able to call my mom about things I was too embarrassed to ask others about has always been a good idea!

    • Omg this is so true!! I used to Facetime my mom from my dorm all the time, and I still get her advice on practically everything even though I’m out of college now!