Hi everyone! I hope you've all had a great week and are looking forward to the latest installment in Richard's contributions to the blog. We've covered the college hookup culture, the perfect first date, how to fail better and now we're talking the pros and cons of long-distance relationships. Enjoy, and let us know what you think in the comments!
People have experienced long-distance relationships for generations upon generations. But, with each generation of increasing technology, the experience of a long-distance relationship have completely evolved. From a more enhanced and quicker mailing system to phone calls, texts and now video chatting, there's no doubt that the landscape of long-distance romantic relationships has changed immeasurably. And get this -- it's estimated that 75% of all relationships that turned into engagements were long-distance at some point. So what’s the secret?
Honestly there isn’t one. Even though being in a long distance relationship shouldn't be as hard as it used to be, it's still not perfect -- and definitely not easy. Here are a few of the pros and cons:
Distance does some good. It's easy to get so entrapped in a relationship that you forget to make time for other things. Individuality and independence from your partner can do wonders for your self-confidence and personal development. And no matter what, that person is only a text/call/vid chat away.
Of course it's hard saying goodbye, but it's just be that much better when you get to see each other again. There's definitely a sense of excitement that's different from that which you get when you're seeing the person 24/7.
You don’t get to see the person all the time, and you have to work harder to stay involved in each other's lives. But, with all the video chatting capabilities, it’s not as bad as it seems.
So much texting.
Most of the time you talk, it's just texting. But it supports the idea of you being your own person, making new friends and doing something you may not do when your significant other is around. (Don’t take this one as cheating. I mean for instance, I love to bowl, but Holly does not. To get that girl to go bowling is like trying to get a child to eat her vegetables. It's not going to happen. So instead, I like to go bowling with my friends.)
Despite the fact that I've listed both two pros and cons, at the end of it, the pros outweigh the cons. It might have went unnoticed, but all of the cons are countered by a but. I recently read an article about relationships that says the strongest relationships are the ones that, no matter what is being said, the word but follows it. For example, your significant other could be overweight...but they are working towards it. The will to look at the good side in every situation is what keeps a relationship strong.
What’s your opinion? Even if you aren't in a long distance relationship or never have been, do you think its possible that a simple word such as “but” could be the key to a strong relationship?